The guides
The stuff nobody tells you.
Practical, honest writing on the legal, financial, and emotional parts of getting divorced in your 20s. Pick a category, or just scroll until something catches you.
What a no-fault divorce actually looks like
Plain answers to the questions you're a little embarrassed to Google. What no-fault means, what you'll need, and what it actually costs.
The five kinds of crying you'll probably do
A gentle, slightly unscientific map of the crying ahead. All of it is normal. None of it is a setback.
How to split a lease without losing your security deposit
The exact order of operations for untangling the apartment. What to ask your landlord, how to split costs fairly, and how to protect your credit.
Reset your space in a weekend (without spending much)
A two-day plan to make your apartment feel like yours again. No renovation, no big budget. Just intentional changes that interrupt the muscle memory.
How to tell the people in your life (a script)
The exact words for the group chat, the parents, and the well-meaning coworker who won't stop asking. Plus permission to mute everything for a day.
Dating again: a slow, kind starting point
When (and whether) to start dating again, how to read your own readiness, and how to keep the first few months low-stakes and self-respecting.
How to financially prepare to leave your husband
The quiet, practical money plan for leaving, especially if you don't have much of your own yet. What to set aside, what to copy, and what to do this week.
Scared to be alone after divorce? Read this first
If the fear of being alone is the thing keeping you in a marriage that's already over, you're not weak. You're human. Here's how that fear actually softens.
Your first weekend alone after divorce, a gentle plan
Here's a soft, low-stakes plan for the first weekend that's just yours, from someone who panicked through hers.
How long does it actually take to get over a divorce?
No timeline, just a map. The real moments that mark healing after a divorce in your 20s, from a woman who's been through it.
The week before your wedding anniversary is the worst part
Why the run-up to your first wedding anniversary after divorce feels worse than the day itself, and a few small things that take the edge off.
When the happy memories ambush you
It's easier to remember the worst day than the best ones. But the good memories come back too, and they hurt in a different way. Here's how to sit with them.
How to plan your first wedding anniversary after divorce
A soft, hour-by-hour plan for the first wedding anniversary you're spending divorced. Not a productivity plan. A get-through-it plan, with room for the cry.
What therapy actually felt like (before and after my divorce)
I'm not a therapist. I'm someone who went for a full year before leaving my marriage, and again after. Here's what it actually felt like, what helped, and why I think almost everyone going through this needs a real person to talk to.
How to heal from a breakup (when it was actually your marriage)
Most breakup advice is written for two-year college relationships. When the breakup was a marriage, the rules are different. Here's how the healing actually works, from someone who lived it.